"I'm late! I'm late! For a very important date!"
The White Rabbit from Alice in Wonderland could be the mascot for so many of us who are driven by discomfort or anxiety to escape this moment and get to the next in a hurry.
How many times have you caught yourself replaying memories in your head, or thinking about what comes next, rather than experiencing what is going on right now? We suddenly realize that we missed our freeway exit or find ourselves abruptly sucked back into a conversation that our mind had wandered away from, unsure how to respond, when someone asks "Don't you agree?"
Planning for the future and reminiscing about the past are natural and can be important and enjoyable experiences. However, when it gets to the point that we are uncomfortable with allowing ourselves to be fully present in the moment and open to whatever thoughts and feelings arise, then we become trapped in a vicious cycle of constantly pushing forward or looking back and we miss what is happening right now.
It may feel as if we allow ourselves to slow down, then our past, or the thoughts and feelings that we would rather ignore, will catch up. Constantly being on the go, jumping from one thing to the next,
whether physically or mentally, may bring immediate relief but it can become physically and emotionally exhausting in the long run.
The good news is that when we recognize that "Go, go, go!" has become our go to way of living, then we are one step closer to figuring out how we can relax and become comfortable with the present. There are many excellent techniques and skills to help go beyond tolerating being in the moment and toward having a chance to live in and enjoy the moment.
Once we are aware of our patterns and motivated to improve our quality of life, then we can begin to take advantage of the numerous skills and techniques available to help us do so. Mindfulness
practices, relaxation, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) are a handful of approaches that can be effective in helping people overcome anxiety and feel better.
If you are tired of being in overdrive, fueled by anxiety, and are ready to try something new, then connect with me today for a free telephone consultation. We can talk about what I offer and how I might help you overcome your anxiety and enjoy the moments that fill your day.
Dr. Baker is a Clinical Psychologist in Private Practice in Orange County. She specializes in: anxiety and panic, relationship issues, trauma, PTSD, depression, parenting and child behavior issues, Veterans, and more. Click here to learn more about Dr. Baker and her specialties or connect with her today.
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