Anxiety on the Go
"I'm late! I'm late! For a very important date!"
The White Rabbit from Alice in Wonderland could be the mascot for so many of us who are driven by discomfort or anxiety to escape this moment and get to the next in a hurry.
How many times have you caught yourself replaying memories in your head, or thinking about what comes next, rather than experiencing what is going on right now? We suddenly realize that we missed our freeway exit or find ourselves abruptly sucked back into a conversation that our mind had wandered away from, unsure how to respond, when someone asks "Don't you agree?"
Planning for the future and reminiscing about the past are natural and can be important and enjoyable experiences. However, when it gets to the point that we are uncomfortable with allowing ourselves to be fully present in the moment and open to whatever thoughts and feelings arise, then we become trapped in a vicious cycle of constantly pushing forward or looking back and we miss what is happening right now.
It may feel as if we allow ourselves to slow down, then our past, or the thoughts and feelings that we would rather ignore, will catch up. Constantly being on the go, jumping from one thing to the next,
whether physically or mentally, may bring immediate relief but it can become physically and emotionally exhausting in the long run.
The good news is that when we recognize that "Go, go, go!" has become our go to way of living, then we are one step closer to figuring out how we can relax and become comfortable with the present. There are many excellent techniques and skills to help go beyond tolerating being in the moment and toward having a chance to live in and enjoy the moment.
Once we are aware of our patterns and motivated to improve our quality of life, then we can begin to take advantage of the numerous skills and techniques available to help us do so. Mindfulness
practices, relaxation, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) are a handful of approaches that can be effective in helping people overcome anxiety and feel better.
If you are tired of being in overdrive, fueled by anxiety, and are ready to try something new, then connect with me today for a free telephone consultation. We can talk about what I offer and how I might help you overcome your anxiety and enjoy the moments that fill your day.
We breathe all day every day, but taking a moment to breathe, purposefully, rarely happens in our fast paced schedules. We are too busy working, driving, taking care of the kids, preparing for a meeting, shopping at the market, doing homework, preparing our taxes, taking care of a loved one, grading papers, walking the dog, doing laundry, and making ends meet. Yet, our breath is one of the most effective and powerful tools that we have to combat stress and relax. It is always with us wherever we go and is invisible to the rest of the world when used as a tool for relaxation. It's like our secret weapon. Unfortunately, it is one that we allow to gather dust in our toolbox of coping strategies.
When we are anxious or stressed we may begin to breathe rapidly, drawing in quick and shallow breaths. During a panic attack this rapid breathing can lead to hyperventilation, which can increase panic symptoms and anxiety, leading to even faster and shallower breaths. Thus, a vicious cycle is created. Increasing awareness about our bodies and our breath can help us regain control of how we feel. How do the muscles in your shoulders and neck feel now? Is your jaw clenched? Checking in with our body provides an opportunity to gauge our current level of stress and to take charge and relax when we are aware that we are tense.
For those with panic attacks, paying attention to our bodies can seem frightening, particularly noticing our heart rate, body temperature, and breathing. However, learning about our bodies and our response to stress provides an opportunity to understand them better and to eventually be able to better decipher when we are panicking from when there is truly a medical issue that needs attention.
Once we are aware of our stress and anxiety building, whether from a stressful day at work or panic symptoms beginning to grow, then we can do something about it. Checking in with our bodies in the moment allows us to stop the cycle of stress leading to greater physical strain and emotional discomfort. However, please note, if you are experiencing difficulty breathing check in with a doctor to make sure that there is not an underlying physical cause.
I invite you to try an experiment with me now:
Place one hand on your upper chest and one on your lower abdomen below your belly button. Try not to change the way you have been breathing. Instead just notice which hand rises and falls more with each breath. Is it the hand on your chest or the one on your stomach? Are you taking deep abdominal breaths or shallow breaths in your chest? Deep breathing occurs when the hand on your abdomen rises and falls more than the hand on our chest, as our diaphragm expands and contracts with slow, deep breaths.
To take a deep abdominal breath imagine a balloon in your abdomen. Visualize sending air into the empty balloon as you take a slow, deep breath in. Send the breath past your chest all the way down to your stomach, filling up the balloon and causing your abdomen to expand. Then slowly let the air release as you exhale. Picture the balloon deflating as you gently breath out.
As I said before, we are constantly breathing, every second, but rarely aware of how we are breathing or purposefully using our breath to our advantage. So, let's take 5. The 5-5-5 breath can be an excellent tool to increase relaxation and decrease anxiety and stress. This is a technique I have use with many individuals as a coping skill for stress, anxiety, panic attacks, and PTSD as well as those practicing Mindfulness.
Begin by adjusting your body where you are sitting to get into a comfortable position.
First: Slowly take in a deep abdominal breath, imagining the balloon in your abdomen becoming full, as you count
from 1 to 5 slowly inhaling. Becoming aware of any tension in your body or stress.
Next: Hold your breath at the top to the count of 5, or less if five seconds is difficult, when you have taken in a full,
Finally: Slowly release the air and exhale as you count from 1 to 5. Imagine your muscles relaxing as you exhale.
You can focus on counting to 5 each time or repeat a word that you find calming such as "relax."
That's all there is to it. Five seconds in, a five second pause, and five seconds to release. Just 15 seconds to complete one full cycle of the 5-5-5 breath. You can repeat as many cycles as you need to until you feel your relaxation response increase and your stress response and anxiety decrease.
Please note: Learning this technique does not help unless it is practiced and used often. Placing colorful sticker dots around your office or home to serve as a reminder to slow down and breathe may be a good reminder to make time to relax and breathe purposefully. Find your own way to remember to relax and stick to what works for you.
Connect with me for a free, confidential phone consultation to make an appointment and begin working together to decrease your stress.
Dr. Baker is a Clinical Psychologist in Private Practice in Orange County. She specializes in: anxiety and panic, relationship issues, trauma, PTSD, depression, parenting and child behavior issues, Veterans, and more. Click here to learn more about Dr. Baker and her specialties or connect with her today.
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